Jean has raised a valid point in her comments in her last post on day 71. She is on bit of a downer as cyril says, and perhaps it’s understandable due to circumstances.
I have done a survey of many people i train, and asked them how often do they feel like giving up, quitting, feel that the effort is overwhelming etc etc?
The answers i got back didn’t surprise me, especially those who i see at 5am in the morning.
The reality for them, especially in the winter months, there were indeed times when they were questionning what they did, was it really worth it, wouldn’t it be more comfortable to stay in bed, to join a gym, to join a weight loss club, to buy some new equipment themselves, after all they said “they knew what to do by now, as they had been training with me for years”.
Then after all of this, i had the reinforcement i was looking for. The reasons for continuing their training with me ranged from “they wouldn’t do it otherwise, or they wanted to do it the right way, they couldn’t push themselves this hard on their own, they had tried all the weight loss clubs and all it invlovled was losing the weight at all costs, then inevitably putting the weight on again. There were countless reasons, and thankfully most of them inspired me to work even harder at keeping them happy, and looking out for fresh ways to improve them.
I am training another pregnant lady at the moment, and asked why she was carrying on and had done for many years. We often had disagreements when she wasn’t doing her best, but told me that training during pregnancy was now the most important thing she could ever do, as her health and her baby’s health were now the most important thing in the world. Plus she desperately wanted to get into shape once the baby was born.
Back to Jean, she goes on about “people accepting her as she is”? I have made it plain and clear that we accept her “as she is too”! All i would say to that statement is that i really don’t think jean likes being overweight and inactive, so is that her “true self” and really “as she is”? I don’t think so. Doesn’t she want to be a good role model to her grandchildren and keep up with them into old age, surely this is just ONE of many reasons to be fit and healthy?!!
Perhaps the real jean is more like someone who REALLY ENJOYS training and the challenges it brings, and likes doing crazy physical feats at times!
Jean enjoys her food, sometimes has one too many treats and likes to overdo it when like now as cyril says “she is on a downer”!! So, its up to us to support jean when she is down like this, remind her that she is really much better than buying a cheap piece of exercise equipment and staying inside all the time, when she could be outside an enjoying herself.
We all have the same choices, its about how we deal with the cards that are dealt to us that is the vital thing. Looking on the bright side can be a very important trait, and a habit that will save us from going on many downer’s, which often lead to weight gain and loss of the feeling of wellbeing.
So the question of someone quitting is not new to me, but its just another situation for me to help out with, and tell everyone that its natural, and that everyone goes through it. The reason why my retention rate is extremely high is because i expect you to have obstacles and challenges in your way, and if you expect them, through knowledge and experience, we are going to be very well equipped to get over them and come out the other side in terrific shape.
I told everyone yesterday that one of the major secrets to success is keeping going even when everything or everyone says to quit. Little do most people know that ultimate success is just waiting around the corner!
Hello there!!
I have been a bit quiet lately, been a bit like Jean, on a “downer” and then some!!
I know exactly how Jean feels. I too have a busy social life which involves food and alcohol most of the time. I also have a hobby which involves sitting down and drinking coffee at regular intervals. (motorcycling) In all honesty I have not considered quitting, but I have found this challenge just that and have gone wrong countless times over the past 72 days. I read this blog religiously and having trained with Keri a few years ago, I KNOW that all his advice is SPOT ON and if followed WORKS.
So why do we get it wrong and “fail” my lovely Jean?
Well, for a start STUFF that word fail where the sun don’t shine!!
If we talk of failure we become failures!! If we talk about the need to lose weight we perpetuate the need to lose weight!! We need to approach this with a different mindset.
I returned from yet another short break last Thursday, having gone for days with no real exercise, just a bit of walking. I felt guilty, angry with myself, all the feelings that just don’t help.
I have 9 weeks left before my holiday and I still can’t get into my leathers!!
Like Jean I tried to rationalise my feelings by saying to myself that people should accept me as I am, but sorry to say this Jean, that’s just a load of *****!! YOU, and I, don’t accept yourself because you know there is a better version of Jean, and Deb, inside.
We have been there and it’s a good place to be.
I want that feeling again.
You do too, don’t you Jean?
I have come across a book which explains why we become addicted to crappy foods, mainly because of manufacturers of processed foods adding salt, sugar and fat to make us eat,eat,eat!!
I hope to receive it tomorrow and will let you know how it looks.
As Keri says, let’s keep going. We ARE worth it.
Hi Debs, how are you girl, yep I am struggling big time. Am sitting her looking out the window and it is CHUCKING IT DOWN, waiting for it to ease to go for my run. I really do think that a big part of my problem is the WEATHER, sooooo fed up with it. There is a condition where the weather affects some people, am beginning to wonder. If the SUN was shining dont think I would have this prob, cause I would want to get out there. Thinking of some indoor equipment cos on days like this I could be doin something besides an INDOOR WORKOUT. Used to enjoy weight training, but think the moment has passed. Back up 3 more lbs, went clothes shopping yesterday, and I gave in and have bought sizes 16-18 in goin out clothes and baggy T shirts and legging for the day, goin away in 2 weeks on a boating holiday, so not goin to lose much more in 2 weeks. No I am not saying that I am quitting, just waiting for the weather to get better, know Keri would have me train in snow storms and hurricanes, been there done that with him. No I dont want to accept myself as I am, and I know there is a thinner version trying to get out, and I know I WILL DO IT WHEN I CAN GET OUT EVERY DAY, but for the moment I will be content, and do my best. Cyril has been a sweetie, bet the weather is bad where he is today also. I did a 38.30 min run yesterday, my eating was ok, usual for brekie, 2 chicken salad sarnies for dinner and a packet of LOW Fat crisps, couldnt be bothered to make an evening meal so had toast and poached egg and a can of Bud that was left over from the weekend. Thanks to you, Cyril and The Man himself for your support. Goin to Pembroke 2mo if the weather improves, until the weekend. Best wishes to you all. Jean x
thanks for your thoughts jean, will post later on day 73 to try and help!
great to hear from you debs, the book you talked about sounds like a similar post i made some time ago, the food companies ARE trying to make you addicted to these fatty, sugary foods, you are exactly right and they want you to become customers for life of course! will post later when i have more time and thanks again!
god the bike ride was one of the worse and i’ve only had to bad ones and both been the last few weeks.That hail hurt my face and legs so much yesterday i was still stinging after the shower for AGES AFTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! well if i’ve got the bike comp working right.The normal ride is 5.5miles and the next bit to the Waterfalls and back is 11miles.It took me 64mins to do.Rough gides i think but at least i have something to gauge my work on.
breakfast strawberries and Ready Brek and OJ
snack a few nuts
lunch pita with tuna and lettuce water pint
snack pear water pint
dinner chicken sausages and veg…..
sounds like a brave bike ride indeed cyril!! Hail stones are great fun aren’t they, had a few of those days in my time!!
they hurt like hell man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!