A “victim mentality” and a champion mentality live with us every day in our minds.
When unfortunate things happen to us, it’s natural for us to want some care and attention, some sympathy, love and reassurance that things will get better.
When that runs it’s course, it’s natural as humans for us to fight back, get back on our feet, feel better and get back to our former selves. We want to get back to feeling like a champion, taking charge of our own affairs and slowly but surely doing great things we can be proud of too.
I see both mentalities daily. People on the comeback trail, people who have overcome great odds and became champions again simply by taking daily action, not feeling sorry for themselves anymore and saying “enough is enough, let’s do it!!!!”.
A big problem when the victim mentality continues and no action is taken. Everyone knows that exercising makes them feel better, healthy food is good for your mind and body, but unless a start is made on both, the victim mentality is a much more comfortable place to be.
Also, you will have lots of company with the victim mentality, “the world is against me, why me?, I’m too told, too overweight, I have too many aches and pains, I can’t exercise anymore” are all common statements I hear many times a week in the community, but it has to be said NONE ARE REALLY TRUE.
Everyone can do something about carrying too much weight (and the often dire health consequences that brings), everyone can do a little bit of exercise and build up slow at their OWN level, everyone can ditch most of the ultra processed food that is slowly killing them, everyone can drink a little less alcohol that they may do multiple times a week that is often creating misery for those around them.
The facts are that when people say “enough is enough, I’m not taking this anymore feeling like this”, and escape the victim mentality and build momentum OUT OF IT, and start taking daily action to feel better, they DO start to feel proud of themselves because they are taking action, they DO reclaim that pride in self-esteem they used to have in themselves, and physically and mentally, they feel in a much better place ready to take on the world again, instead of trying to avoid it.
