I remember a girl I trained around 25 years ago, she lost a LOT of weight! She had come out of a break up and was in a low place. When I asked her what the best thing was about losing weight, she said “my ex weighed a lot on me and now I am rid of that weight finally, and I can finally forgive him because he is finally out of my mind now and most importantly I have MOVED ON!”.
Too often we carry the weight of the wrongs someone has done to us. We hold on to the bitterness, hurt, anger, pain, and shame that weigh us down, hold us back and make life feel harder.
Over time this horrible energy becomes toxic and poisons our spirit and leads to discouragement and despair.
This is a great quote “Holding on to resentment and anger is like grasping hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else. You are the one who is getting burned.”
Life is filled with many past and future moments where people will say and do things that offend you, doubt you, hurt you and cause you to hold on to the hot coal with a desire to throw it at them.
When I started a business, some people wished me well but I heard a lot of resentment behind my back (and sometimes to my face). My best tactic was to INGORE anything that was going on locally and concentrate what I need to do to serve people well, and I STILL use that tactic focusing on what we can control instead of worrying about anything bad that may or may not happen or even what so and so said!.
BUT if we hold onto that resentment or negative talk off people who don’t really know better, it can eat us up and make us negative ourselves and act in a matter we don’t usually do.
Some negative talk we can use and fire us up to prove people wrong, but don’t let the negativity eat you up, don’t let it bring you down and don’t let it define you, because you are BETTER than that.
Going forward when someone does wrong you, don’t hold on to the hot coal and don’t throw it at that person. Keep working hard to be the best you can be, your training and new found focus will help you forgive fast knowing it will help you move forward sooner and elevate your life in a much more productive way.
