This is one of most questions i get asked pretty much all the time by many members we train. It illustrates the need to hang around with positive and helpful people and keep them in your life. Also, to get rid of hurtful, negative and those who try to destroy you emotionally OUTSIDE of the gym.
How many of you perhaps have grown up with friends through school, sport, work, college just about anything. You were good friends for years and then at some stage, things start to change.
This has happened to me and i know it’s happened to many of you too or i wouldn’t get to hear of it personally happening to many of you.
When you join the gym, we try to make it the most positive environment by only taking on good quality positive people.
As long as you show up 3 times a week and eat right, then you are guaranteed to excel, often do amazing things in your time with us, and always look and feel a huge amount better than when you first started.
Whilst most people will congratulate you, praise you and admire your hard work and dedication, unfortunately you will a tiny minority who will not like it. This takes different forms. It usually starts off with a small jibe, a slightly nasty comment and dig or sustained negative behaviour against you.
I have heard even some of our most successful members have face to face aggressive comments to them by “so called” friends, often upsetting them deeply. This is downright bullying and i am begging you ditch those so called friends into touch-for good! We try to constantly encourage at the gym but beware those outside it who don’t share your goals and aspirations and don’t support you.
The old saying is that you are most influenced by the 5 friends or work colleagues and family you spend the most time with. IF you spend your time with negative and hurtful people, then your mental and emotional state is likely to be very fragile, and you will be answering too them, and you will never ever reach your potential if you listen to these people, so stop hanging around with them full stop!
Imagine those 5 people being new friends and them being supportive, positive about you, encouraging, looking after your wellbeing, and looking out for you all the time.
Your life would TRANSFORM OVERNIGHT and your potential would go absolutely crazy in a good way!! Nothing would be impossible, nothing would stop you and you would have so much more fun doing it.
You wouldn’t have to worry about ANYONE telling you that you couldn’t do it, you shouldn’t be doing it or to stop doing it even.
Time to act right now and take all those crushing your confidence, crushing your dreams and aspirations, and crushing your future OUT of your life. If you dont then this pattern will always continue and some will continue to make your life a misery, when you should be celebrating your massive success right now and answering to NOBODY’S criticism!!!
