Struggle helps us develop deep reserves of strength.
Nobody likes pain, but a lot of our growth comes from when we get stuck into what’s painful, sometimes we have to step beyond our past experiences and do the the things we find that are hard and new.
Doing things that we are a fearful of, doesn’t automatically lead to courage, hardship doesn’t always make us better, pain can break us or make us wiser, suffering can destroy us or make us stronger, fear can cripple us or make us more courageous.
It is resilience the makes the difference. Resilience is one of the greatest virtues and something we talk about all the time at the gym, and many of our members have it in spades-this is what they teach me each day.
Pain and hardship often makes us more resilient, often we want to and DO become stronger and wiser. We all want to become better so next time it hits, we are a little more prepared to bounce back quicker.
This is nothing new, all generations face he same questions, and everyone has to answer them at some stage.
How do you control your mind?
How do you control stress in your life?
How do you work through fear and build courage?
How do you deal with incredible pressure in your life?
How do you overcome obstacles when all seems lost?
This is not to romanticise what people go through, this is to tell you that although many go through deep pain, what i have observed is that they become better people because if it. They give me one nugget of wisdom each day that i can share with others.
The way they dealt with a critical life-changing moment in their lives helps me pass it on to others, and help show that often anything is possible as long as you are resilient, you stick at it and you respond to hardship with courage by taking action. You were born with resilience, it’s your opportunity to show it and achieve great things.
Post traumatic stress disorder is something you probably know affects many people in the forces, and in this case was referring to US army veterans who had seen many conflicts.
The study started when the soldiers were back in the hospital in the US. Their disorder was so bad that some had failed to talk-for 5 years! That’s quite a thing on its own, quite how much they had withdrawn into themselves was startling and deeply disturbing after witnessing the ravages of war.
A radical experiment got them to be more active. In this case, they were taken out to sea by a surfing instructor. The men were being taught to surf, they didn’t really want to go but they managed to get them in the water.
Within literally 5 waves crashing over them, some men starting smiling and laughing, which according to the nurses and doctors present was the first time they could remember it happening.
Within 30 minutes, many of the group uttered their first words since they had been in the hospital (5 years ago).
The benefits continued to get better the more sessions they spent being in the water, and being active in general.
Most treatment for anything to do with the mind starts with exactly that-treating the mind and often medication.
A growing movement around the world by doctor’s and think tanks to create real change focuses on the subject getting active and moving more first.
There are numerous studies to show that you think more positively when you are exercising, being more active than when you are staying still and contemplating a solution or lack of it.
As the soldiers showed, whilst not completely solving their many problems, they got them on the road to a better future, getting them back “to live life” and hopefully in a place where they can make better and more empowering decisions about their future.
Get active, celebrate your ability to think more clearly and enjoy the opportunities that brings.