So let’s call this anxiety week, and how being nervous (to whatever level) affects us all in our plans for the next day and what we do in the moment.
This is a little known, but when I first started off, I really hoped each session went well with everyone I trained, before and after the session, no matter what success I had, I really wanted more and didn’t recognise my efforts as anything out of the ordinary, I just had to get better because I was paranoid about still having business, which is pretty good motivation!!
It’s a trait I still have, and I think it’s a good one that keeps me paranoid about doing well for every individual, every session every day.
The nervousness you feel each day should be seen as an advantage to you, learned that myself and keeps you on your toes. It means you are eager to do your best, to give it your all, and decent people should appreciate the sincere effort you are putting in.
There will be people no matter how much you do for them in whatever job you do, will still question your effort for them. It’s time to leave them go or they will drain your spirit, and you will question your ability on a daily basis, which will lead to anxiety.
Some people will drag you down daily, it may be workmates, may even be best friends, anxiety is often caused by these people “playing you” against one thing or another and ultimately you will be the loser.
Consider the big picture. If you are giving your very best every day, then you are successful in any language. You are very likely giving a lot of value to everyone you come into contact with. Many people appreciate you, some may not be able to do without you, but SOMEHOW because the people you associate most doubt you at every opportunity, your self-esteem will be hurt and anxiety will only build and build until it becomes unbearable.
Work out how much you give to others every day, how much you genuinely help people with sincerity, and appreciate the great work you do, see it in the cold light of day.
Then single out those who will tear you down, doubt what you say, doubt how good you are at your job/training/anything, and please take them out of your life because that’s a massive part of your anxiety right there.
The best thing I ever did was take those who were deeply unhelpful in my own life OUT of my life, and I never looked back. Sooner you make the decision the better, and watch your anxiety drop or even disappear.
