Keri McKibbin Personal Training

Listening to what sometimes goes in your head every day is often self-defeating. We need to self-talk more and drum into ourselves what we are really capable of achieving.

Think of every day when you get up, bad news is all around. The actual news on TV is always awful. You get into work and there’s usually negative influences moaning and complaining about everything that’s wrong, and nothing is right.

Then society tells us to judge our progress with health by weight, which has been proven to be a poor overall barometer of our overall progress. Then many people tell us not to exercise, it’s a waste of time/too much work/not for you or just plain stupid, you can get all your exercise walking or in the garden somehow.

So if you are listening to most of the world around you, then you are bound to have your thoughts everyday swayed to the negative side.

You need to change the way you term things. Instead of HAVING to go to the gym, HAVING to take your kids to sports or school, HAVING to take a course at work, it makes me sad when people say they are HAVING to help people but don’t really like doing it.

Looking at things differently makes all the difference. We get to go to the gym WHEN MANY people are too sick to even go. We get to go to a job and improve ourselves, while so many are unemployed.

We get to raise our children even if they drive us nuts at times, many people we know can’t even have kids so make the most of them. It is possible to make a difference to everyone we meet in life just by acting a little better each time.

We get to use our gifts and talents to make a product, start a charity like Tom or provide a service that changes people’s lives. We get to eat three meals a day while millions of people are starving.

We get to work on projects, answer phone calls, serve customers, participate in meetings, design, create, share, sell, lead and suit up every day for whatever games life throws at us.
Yes there will be challenges and life isn’t easy but each day we wake up we get another opportunity to make today better than yesterday and tomorrow better than today.

We get to uplift, inspire, encourage, and impact others. We get to live this life. Let’s make the most of it by remembering that life is a gift not an obligation.

Going from a negative mindset, constantly putting yourself down, having no confidence, no self-esteem to one of thinking independently, much more positive, taking real action every day can seem like climbing the highest mountain, but changing the way you see the world is vital for your short and long term.

Be grateful for what you have. Nobody is perfect and pretty much all of you have progressed dramatically. Celebrate that life-changing positive experience you are going through! Remember what you were like when you started and how bad you felt? Your mind can only process one thought at a time, so focusing on what you are grateful for will make you act more positive and be more positive to others too.

2. I got in the habit of praising others long ago, instead of focusing on what they are doing wrong. Some of you don’t do the exact 100% version of an exercise to start with, simply because you are unable to because you haven’t practiced it much and are still learning. It’s always better to correct mistakes, then encourage others to do it right, and have patience until they do. Give 3 times as much praise as criticism. One big life lesson for me.

3. Start a success journal. Write down something every day that you did well, maybe even surprised you, and something that made you feel good and kept you in a great mood. Writing things down becomes a habit, and inspires you to try something good or great the next day and so on.

4. Focus on thing you CAN change, and let go of the things you can’t. Worrying about what might happen is a futile exercise because most of the time the things you worry about never happen. Don’t try and control everything, act positive, be positive and see the best in any situation.

5. When you are stressed out to the max, you feel like complaining about anything, and the whole world is wrong, nothing wrong with having a rant but please follow it with a solution. Anything can be overcome if you actively go out and change it. All of you are highly intelligent and know the right thing to do, and you have the solution well within your grasp.

All of these will become strong everyday habits and will become very powerful strategies. Start today and watch the positive change that comes into your life every day. This is a must do that will pay massive dividends.

Getting initial success is much easier than getting success long term.

The higher you climb, the harder it becomes, and this is why you need your mindset right and get rid of any “drag you down” thinking that will muddle your brain at exactly the wrong time. We work all the time on getting your mind right, raising your ambitions through appreciating your true talents and keep attempting things even if at first they don’t come off.

After initial success, there comes lots of things and people attempting to put you off. Lose some body fat? Great. Lose a lot of body fat and you will get even more resistance to it along the way. Create yourself a transformation? Then although many will shower with praise and congratulations, many will not because you be showing them exactly how to do it, and some don’t like that.

The physical process of creating your very own transformation is tough enough, but avoiding negative influences makes the job so much easier. Make sure the 5 people you associate with most are positive or you will have someone every or most days dragging you down little by little.

This is where you develop a tough skin. This is when you develop your mind to expect the occasional attack, the occasional jibe telling you “you have done well but don’t lose anymore”, “don’t bother with the gym, walking is just as good for you!”, “why not eat fast food and drink more, one life you have” Etc etc!

There will be many situations and people trying to throw you off track on your journey.

Anyone ever gone for promotion in a job here and been advised “not to go for it” even though you are really an excellent candidate, because they tell you management is somehow “evil” and you’d have to be an idiot to work there. Then you find out all sorts of people went for the job themselves!!

Getting into a daily habit of attempting more achievement and success is contagious and an excellent habit to get into. Most people admit that things in life could run a little better, but aren’t prepared to do anything about it.

If you take daily action every day, and do something that will get you closer to what you really want in life, then good things will start happening, i’m not talking in a week either, you need to give it consistent real action every day until the good stuff starts to happen no matter how long it takes.
There have been many times where i’ve tried something and it doesn’t come off, but i keep doing almost getting to the point of giving up because i believe in it full stop, and something makes me carry it on.

It’s around that exact point when the greatest successes come, RIGHT THERE!!! Then from that moment on, you realise it IS the carrying on, the sticking at it even when you felt like giving up that made ALL the difference.

Your power to be consistent, to carry on, to show grit and determination, to become a little bit better every day, even when you feel like giving up many times, is the mindset you need.

THAT is the true secret to get the kind of success you really want. That in a sentence is trait you must develop and everything starts going to a whole new level well beyond what you ever thought would happen or develop to!!!