Category: motivation

A famous quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson

“What lies beyond us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us”.

Most of us want to change some part of us, some of us want to change everything! But the funny thing is, it’s far more comfortable to stay right where we are and keep things the same in life. The critical point becomes when you’re much more motivated to change, than stay the same. Many of you who have made transformations in your life cannot be the old person, and the new you at the same time. When you have made changes for the better, you think differently, more decisively and usually more positively.

The moment you decide to change is the time you realise what your life entails at that exact moment. If everything is great and you’re really happy, then of course there’s no reason to change, only perhaps to make improvements and enhance what you’ve got.

If everything is not what you want, in terms of relationships, health, career, financial matters etc, then you may be desperate at that exact moment to change things completely. You will make sure your health is number one, finally making the commitment to change by never missing a workout, getting a new fresh supermarket list full of good food on lists i have given you here, giving up alcohol to a large degree, you may crave a better career, going back to college to enable you to do so, you may want to get out of negative relationships and attract positive people into your life, you may want to never be so financially needy again, and work 100% harder to go out and get it!

Whatever your situation, you can always improve and making sure you get out there and workout, eat well, and sleep well is heck of a good start for today! Never lose sight of the reasons you have for improving your lot, and this will allow you stick to your own personal programme.

Keri

We all workout as well as we can, we then feed our bodies hopefully, with good quality foods as fresh as possible, and we really aim to look after ourselves. Being strong in body is no good if we don’t use our mind in the right way, or let not so good things happen in our lives because we have negative influences all around us.

If you can give your mind healthy, positive images on a daily basis, then chances are you’re going to become a more positive, happy go lucky person yourself. If you tend to see the best side in people, rather than the small negative side, you’re going to seem a far more attractive person to others, and people will see the good side in you too.

A good habit is to spend time with more positive people, who share similar visions to you in life, where you talk about any ideas you have to create a better environment for you and others.

There’s a million plus sites on the internet to talk positive on, and learn about others who have created great positivity in the world. Positivity and seeing the best in any situation becomes a valuable habit in life.

There’s also  a million plus sites to see the worst in everyone, these are hugely popular im afraid as most people accept life is pretty miserable most of the time.

The options are simple, search for the best and most positive influences in life, and attract the same positives back into your life, or seek the negatives and worst of any situation, and you also attract negatives in your own life.

Train your body, eat very well and feed your mind with positive influences, this habit can become very powerful and second nature very soon.

Keri

When you make plans for your weekly workouts on a monday, you are also planning on what to avoid. For instance, today i will be doing my workouts, i will be eating well, i will focusing on getting enough sleep, i will be trying to reach my normal standards, perhaps even exceed them, i will be making sure i get my fruit and vegetables in to avoid all the colds out there at the moment, i will be trying my best to help others reach their goals etc etc.

This list of things to do is all positive, but i also subconsciously have a list in my head on what NOT to do. I won’t eat the junk all week that i will know will give me a wheezy chest, like it did on my break in london. I will give 110% to my workouts, not leave myself down simply by going through the motions, it’s not going so happen! I won’t be going down the pub because a couple of friends are, i won’t be buying sugary/fatty foods in the supermarket simply because it’s “nearly christmas” and i “deserve” it for some reason. I won’t be denying myself of sleep because i know it’s going to hurt my performance the next day, sleep is vital for me or i let everyone else down the next day, and yawning all day in front of everyone isn’t exactly “inspiring”!

It’s important to appreciate that when you seemingly deny yourself things, you are also being hugely positive about your life. You are building your self-confidence, your self-control, realising you do have willpower after all, and the control of your life you never thought you had is actually there, and you have a lot of it to call upon when YOU want it.

 You are not ignoring friends if you don’t drink or eat badly with them in the week, you are just choosing to live your life for the better, and feel better, nobody can deny you that!

Keri

This is for all of you who have been told that you will never amount to anything! Society conditions us to be cautious, and not to step our of our comfort zone, here’s a few examples.

All of us have been a child, and some of us have been a parent, so you can relate to this hopefully. When you’re a child, you constantly get cuddled and fussed over, but also you get told not to do things too. If you get too close to the fire, you get stopped and told not to do it again, you get told not to spill your food and eat like a pig, you get told to make a better effort at not filling your nappy when you’re potty training etc etc. Rules start to come into your life!

When you get to school, you start learning that what you got away with in the house doesn’t cut any ice at school, and you learn more discipline, and you are taught by the teacher and your friends, what you can’t do and what you can do. Things have suddenly become a lot more limited in behaviour, and your choices on how to do things.

Then you are judged by your efforts in school and usually categorised as an A, B or C student for example. Certain things are expected of you in life and a certain range of career is expected of you. When you eventually fit into one of these careers, and then perhaps it’s not what you thought it was, the option to change it is usually met with those famous words “you can’t do that”! or “don’t you want to think about that?” or “something else may not suit you or you will find it hard to get a job”! “or even just be happy with your lot in life”!

When you are growing up, you usually have a circle of friends and there is pressure to conform. When you want to do something different that doesn’t really involve the rest of the group, who here has met with astonished looks , and not exactly lots of approving words?!! “You can’t do that” will often be thrown at you in a non-improving way.

What if you have put lots of weight on, your fitness is a distant memory from school, isn’t it true that your new circle of friends are usually not really interested in being very healthy, being fit and feeling fantastic about themselves. There may be one of your friends into a healthy culture but that may be about it. When you suddenly announce that you’re fed up with your weight, your fitness, feeling rubbish, no energy, no drive, fed up with your job etc, aren’t you suddenly met with an initial “don’t be stupid, you look “fine””! When you expand on your plans, doesn’t the “you can do that” undertones start again, or ”you’re too old” or “you’d better be careful” comments start all over again.

You can see then the “can’t do” attitude rules our lives, isn’t it easier to simply “fit in” and not be “controversial”, sounds ridiculous but true and if you like being part of the herd, like a sheep, then perhaps this may be the wrong message for you.

If you are interested in changing anything or even everything, and were told that all it took was opening your mind, and writing down a list of things you really wanted, and taking action to go and get those things, would you believe me?

What about Cyril who regularly posts on here, he’s down to 18 stone now, but I see him at the most at 15 stone, his mindset will allow him to get there or not, it’s his choice and I’m going to help him get there, but he ultimately chooses to get there, and put the work in of course. He is 200% capable!

 At a heavier weight, your mindset is different because you do not quite believe that an amazing physical condition can be yours. This is not the “right” of other people, it is your “right” if you put the work in, really leave no other outcome possible in your mind, and take constant action every day to get there. I’ve gone on about most people never taking any action and complaining about life. Isn’t it time by now that you took action to get REALLY where you want to be, isn’t there more to life and did you really imagine when you were that 10 year old boy or girl, that life would really be just “this”? If life is amazing for you, then that’s fantastic and you can probably relate to all of this today.

Life is all about being grateful with your lot, but doesn’t mean you can’t go out there and really get what you want does it? Don’t let anyone tell you that “you can’t do it”!

Life is much better when your are healthier, you workout because you feel better, you eat good food because you feel better, you help others because you feel better, people complement you because sometimes you happen to do good things in life.

Don’t believe you CAN’T DO this or that, you know the truth and taking action every day is key, in short DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT and it will become infectious and you will suddenly become this goal-orientated individual who knows everything is possible, as long you put the work in!

I want to know your stories and let’s start proving you can do it, and prove a few people wrong along the way maybe, which is always fun!! Keep using the resources on this blog and ask me anything that will help you.

Keri