Sometimes life hits us hard and makes us stressed. We are thrown the wrong way, and we can’t concentrate on the rest of the day because that certain “something” is bothering us.
I see some people complaining about everything however small and trivial in the great scheme of things.
I see others who have genuine serious things, sometimes life-changing things to complain about, never complain at all.
Here’s the difference I see between the two.
The ones that complain all the time are always “stressed”.
Research shows that if you live with these stressed feelings and keep living them out, that energy slowly drains away from you and makes you live in a depleted state. You are not productive, you don’t get the most important things to you done, and the negativity rubs off on your family, friends and work colleagues all with a hugely negative effect.
I see at the gym too individuals who have everything going against them. They may have a life-changing operation, they may be laid up in bed for weeks, they may be in chair for weeks. The reason I still ask and care about these people is not only do I care, but I am fascinated by their thought process and how a great recovery happens (you will have so many at the gym by now).
How don’t they throw in towel? How don’t they just say that’s it and start eating and drinking to excess every day to cope with their pain? Why don’t they say “why me”?!!!
Their positivity through adversity is the key. They are under enormous pressure to be angry, dismissive, negative and bitter.
But somehow they battle through and fight and eventually show up. Then they show up relentlessly, they never wants praise for doing so because they are desperately fighting first of all to get partly and then fully mobile.
Then they fight to be their best again. Then all of these constant battles become engrained in their mind. They are never the same again but in a GREAT way. They become battle hardened, and ready for ANY war that will come into their lives in the future.
The main theme is gratitude. They are thankful for what’s in their life, all the positives, all the incredible blessings they have.
On Saturday mornings I take a “gratitude walk” or run even. I appreciate all the good things in my life, all the opportunities I have every day and for all the time I can spend with my family, the opportunity to be down the gym every day in the week and the sheer number of great individuals like YOU who entrust us to bring out the greatness within YOU.
See your world different, we are all dealt different cards, but how we deal with, and appreciate those cards ultimately makes ALL the difference.
Don’t apologise for being your best, or choosing the path that takes you there.
Some people will do well with you, some will fall behind, it’s not your fault, you do try to elevate everyone with you along the way with your positive attitude.
It’s my job at our gym to pick everyone up when they fall, but I see more of YOU doing it too, becoming leaders in the process, this is priceless for us, for those being picked up, and priceless for our culture.
Some people around you in general life will be stuck in the mud, stuck in their own negativity they feel they can’t get out of. You are growing in all ways, but don’t shrink down again just to fit around them.
You are becoming more now not only as an athlete, but a person. Enjoy the opportunities that gives you, the new friends it brings you and the new perspectives it gives you in life.
Take yourself to a new level, appreciate you are capable of so much more now and appreciate what you have achieved, and appreciate the people you have inspired along the way.
Do not be held back by the ones who won’t go for it in life, the less motivated who don’t see life like you do, those who are narrow minded, negative people who waste your time.
The journey you are on at the gym means every day you are progressing, being challenged physically and mentally to be better, of course its tough, but personal growth is always hard, but look how far you have developed and become better because of it.
When you get into your flow of exercise, you learn to go with it and enjoy it.
True success comes when exercise and eating right is part of your everyday life, and you don’t even think about it anymore, it’s just the way you live and you love the enormous energy it gives you.
Give yourself permission to go for it, to live with courage and be free of others judgement. Being free in your own mind means you can go on and do absolutely anything you want in life.