Saturday, 27th April

Sometimes life hits us hard and makes us stressed. We are thrown the wrong way, and we can’t concentrate on the rest of the day because that certain “something” is bothering us.

I see some people complaining about everything however small and trivial in the great scheme of things. 

I see others who have genuine serious things, sometimes life-changing things to complain about, never complain at all.

Here’s the difference I see between the two.

The ones that complain all the time are always “stressed”. 

Research shows that if you live with these stressed feelings and keep living them out, that energy slowly drains away from you and makes you live in a depleted state. You are not productive, you don’t get the most important things to you done, and the negativity rubs off on your family, friends and work colleagues all with a hugely negative effect.

I see at the gym too individuals who have everything going against them. They may have a life-changing operation, they may be laid up in bed for weeks, they may be in chair for weeks. The reason I still ask and care about these people is not only do I care, but I am fascinated by their thought process and how a great recovery happens (you will have so many at the gym by now).

How don’t they throw in towel? How don’t they just say that’s it and start eating and drinking to excess every day to cope with their pain? Why don’t they say “why me”?!!!

Their positivity through adversity is the key. They are under enormous pressure to be angry, dismissive, negative and bitter. 

But somehow they battle through and fight and eventually show up. Then they show up relentlessly, they never wants praise for doing so because they are desperately fighting first of all to get partly and then fully mobile. 

Then they fight to be their best again. Then all of these constant battles become engrained in their mind. They are never the same again but in a GREAT way. They become battle hardened, and ready for ANY war that will come into their lives in the future.

The main theme is gratitude. They are thankful for what’s in their life, all the positives, all the incredible blessings they have.

On Saturday mornings I take a “gratitude walk” or run even. I appreciate all the good things in my life, all the opportunities I have every day and for all the time I can spend with my family, the opportunity to be down the gym every day in the week and the sheer number of great individuals like YOU who entrust us to bring out the greatness within YOU.

See your world different, we are all dealt different cards, but how we deal with, and appreciate those cards ultimately makes ALL the difference.

Sunday, 14th April

Don’t apologise for being your best, or choosing the path that takes you there.

Some people will do well with you, some will fall behind, it’s not your fault, you do try to elevate everyone with you along the way with your positive attitude.

It’s my job at our gym to pick everyone up when they fall, but I see more of YOU doing it too, becoming leaders in the process, this is priceless for us, for those being picked up, and priceless for our culture.

Some people around you in general life will be stuck in the mud, stuck in their own negativity they feel they can’t get out of. You are growing in all ways, but don’t shrink down again just to fit around them.

You are becoming more now not only as an athlete, but a person. Enjoy the opportunities that gives you, the new friends it brings you and the new perspectives it gives you in life.

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Take yourself to a new level, appreciate you are capable of so much more now and appreciate what you have achieved, and appreciate the people you have inspired along the way.

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Do not be held back by the ones who won’t go for it in life, the less motivated who don’t see life like you do, those who are narrow minded, negative people who waste your time.

The journey you are on at the gym means every day you are progressing, being challenged physically and mentally to be better, of course its tough, but personal growth is always hard, but look how far you have developed and become better because of it. 

When you get into your flow of exercise, you learn to go with it and enjoy it. 

True success comes when exercise and eating right is part of your everyday life, and you don’t even think about it anymore, it’s just the way you live and you love the enormous energy it gives you.

Give yourself permission to go for it, to live with courage and be free of others judgement. Being free in your own mind means you can go on and do absolutely anything you want in life.

Wednesday, January 2nd

Some words of reality on the first day back after Christmas.

When you joined us, you had high expectations and if you showed up regularly, they were met and you even raised your expectations from there.

Lots of you are doing INCREDIBLY well and we are eternally thankful for your efforts. You approach the new yer in fine form and can hit the ground running.

What about those who are struggling, can’t get going and those who doesn’t take much to lose their enthusiasm.

To all of you, I must ask you to remind yourself why you started. Many of you started because you were unhappy with your health, and that in itself was making you…………..well unhappy!

The pride you had in your initial achievements wasn’t enough to keep you going because you were easily influenced to give up.

People usually give up because another “story” takes over their lives.

It could be someone in your social circle thought it would be ‘best’ if you quit, after all, that exercise ‘thing’ wasn’t really good for you. You should be like them, watching tv more than ever, eating more fast and processed food than ever, after all, wasn’t this such a ‘fun and happy way to live’? Even though that lifestyle is shown to shorten your life ((Doctors tell us this and all the science backs it up).

It could well be that your initial success was not enough to install new habits. You didn’t stay long enough to make exercise and eating right a WAY OF LIFE. Not enough to make it a natural process, so quitting seemed like such an easy decision to make.

Another story could be that you like following others. Whatever your crowd says, then that is the ‘truth’. Even though you secretly know exercise is good for you and you are pretty good at it, then you had ‘better’ follow the crowd as you don’t want to ‘stand out’ and its easier to have a ‘quiet life’.

If the COURAGE has left your life, your individual personality has disappeared or deeply hidden and the PRIDE you showed when you did so well with us has long been forgotten, then you need to find a way, because people are DEPENDING on you.

They never saw you happier when you were fit. Never saw you carry yourself with so much confidence when you were achieving things with your health. Never saw you give so much leadership to your family when you were fit and strong, and have now seen you weaken due to your lack of outstanding heath.

Harsh words, and you may hate me for saying it, but if you aren’t exercising 3 times a week, then life is drifting away from you, life is not on YOUR terms and life is nowhere as great as it could be.

Don’t tell yourself a life, a story that says the being overweight, unfit, lacking in energy is somehow ok because its NOT and YOU KNOW IT and your life depends on it.

Time to act, you know the truth.

Tuesday, 1st January

Why training partners are a great idea (but almost NEVER long term).

I love the idea of trainers partners, you get pushed a bit harder, you get excited about your training and the results are great. I LOVE it!

I have had many training partners myself and benefitted IMMENSELY, each has pushed me on to new heights.

Then there’s the downside.

Your partner starts being 15 minutes late for training, then 30 minutes and soon enough starts missing sessions. You get kept waiting, threw your initial enthusiasm for your session, and stopped your progress in its tracks.

Then your training partner has to have a week off, so you have two choices. You either have the week off myself in a “loyalty to my training partner” sort of way thinking, then promise yourself that “next week” will be IT and we will CRUSH it!!! This is DISASTEROUS thinking!!!!!!!!

Then monday morning comes and you get a text saying that your partner cant make it tonight, or tomorrow and maybe at the end of the week. 

You feel lost without him/her and training becomes without so much meaning.

The two weeks off becomes two MONTHS, and people ask if you are still training? You say ‘sort of’ but I’m ‘missing my training partner’. This sounds a good enough excuse after all right? “I sound like a pro now don’t i now that I have a training partner?”.

I don’t have to tell you how ridiculous this sounds, so please LEARN from so many who have come and go before you at the gym, I LOVE training partners but use them for short periods and ultimately TRUST yourself. Don’t wish away your time left on earth and don’t give someone else control of your life, especially when you could be easily improving on your OWN ACCORD.

I have seen people have two weeks off and it turn into two years because they don’t have the confidence to start back again. Truly heartbreaking.

My advice is RELY on yourself or you live your live BASED on others and their decisions which is a HORRENDOUS plan. If your happiness is really dependant on others, then you wont have much of a life.

If you rely on yourself, then you WILL hit your workout 3-4 times a week, you meet and get to know others better and your progress and hopes in life don’t get put on hold.

Start of the new year, make it YOUR plan to show up for every session no matter what ‘OTHER’ people have planned. Guaranteed success this way and love the results which WILL come your way.

Tuesday, January 1st 2019

The big start back tomorrow begins at 9am. Here’s what I’m expecting out of each and every one of you.

  1. You show up 3 times a week. You wont get anywhere if you don’t make it to train. Endless motivational quotes posting every day won’t do a thing for you. You change by showing up full stop. 
  1. We support each other, we move further when we act as a team. You respect the person next to you, and support them when they doubt themselves. We have no ‘cliques’, and we are to HELP each other.
  1. You need to show GRIT. You will know by now if you have it in you succeed in our gym by doing it the right way, or you are still tempted to take the easy way offered by cowboys in the ‘fitness’ world who are offering you strange “portions”, that suddenly get you in shape in a couple of weeks. We ONLY want hard workers, and those who do it the right way.
  1. Workout 1 AND 2 are tough, and you need to do BOTH to appreciate what we are trying to achieve. Those who dismiss workout 2 as ‘not necessary’ are the same ones who can’t walk the next day when they eventually do it. These workouts help your running, cycling or whatever you are trying to do. You will pick up far more injuries NOT doing these workouts, you will be stiffer and your body will get run down far quicker. BE HUMBLE, BE PREPARED TO LEARN. I have trained people for endless amounts of years and I can tell you straight that if you are running on hard surfaces every day for long distances, then your body will rebel and give you NOTHING but trouble. Nobody has run more than me, running with at least 8 people a day for 20 something years and I remain PAIN FREE, but UNLESS you do the other stuff we do at the gym, a lifetime of pain is coming your way.

5. Back to point 3 about doing it the right way. We don’t do any ‘shake diets’ or anything faddy that leads to long term MISERY. Anyone peddling their own ‘miracle’ diets to profit from any gym members will be asked to leave PERMANENTLY no doubt. 

6. We have had a record amount of new member enquiries over Christmas but every year we only take a tiny percentage of these on. We have worked out how many members we can successfully work with at any one time. We want YOU the long term member as the absolute priority and the sole focus of our attention, you the loyal long term member comes first. If you cannot commit to training with us properly and don’t want the best for your health, or you still want to try every gimmick under the sun, then you need to make way for committed people who will make our team and spirit even stronger.

7. We have a huge amount on food on www.kerimckibbin.co.uk . Don’t pretend to blame your workouts if you are not eating well. Training hard, rest and eating well are your best success strategy, always will be. You have video workouts, eating and motivation all on one site. If you are a paying member, please send an user name and password to me at fitness@kerimckibbin.co.uk 

8. It’s down to you, take full responsibility. We message you, support you, teach you every workout to get the very best out of you, but we can’t achieve incredible things unless you take responsibility for what goes into your mouth, unless you stop making excuses why you can’t make your sessions, unless you stop letting negative people control your life and unless you STOP yourself reaching your true potential. 

9. Allow yourself to be great. Accept experienced coaching, accept early morning messaging reminding you to be great, accept a desperate plea from us to be the best you can be. We are not a ‘typical’ gym and we make no apologies on it. We are not deeply in debt like most gyms who rent their machines, we are debt free and own everything. We support you EVERY session, not show you around once and forget about you. We don’t force you on contract like most gyms as our retention is really high and we only want members that are truly onboard with what we are trying to do.

2019, it’s down to you and to show up to accept EVERYTHING we can throw at you to be great.