All of us have had ups and downs in the past, some more than others. We do tend though to focus on the negative periods in our lives, the times when we took a chance on something, whether it was a business opportunity that never came to anything, a relationship that went wrong, when we got injured from exercising in a freak accident maybe, when we lost all of that weight, then put it all back on and more! When we perhaps trusted people and got let down, when we never got the recognition for doing something well in work, when we did anything really, and it turned out badly!!
The facts are that when we bring these moments up, and we talk about them, it usually destroys our ambitions to try the same thing again. Most people will try certain things in their teens and early 20’s maybe, and because they never worked, their lives become a graveyard of ambition. They often moan that the person who did succeed was “lucky”, had “more money”, or had more “influence”, and life can become full of bitterness and jealousy is you let this mantra run your life.
Let’s turn it around, think of those moments that you WERE successful in life, come on, there must have been a few, or even more than a few! What are those moments you were proud, and actually blushed when you were complemented on doing a good job at something? When we think of these times, its hard not to being a smile to our faces, or deep down inside, and the world of possibility that existed in our lives exactly at that moment.
People usually take the next step at that moment or they act when they are desperate! Most people never take action because taking action takes confidence. Confidence is not often achieved until you overcome challenges, so taking that action suddenly becomes a nervous thing to do, and it seems something very difficult to do. The good news is that once you take action, it will become a habit and once you take the next piece of action after that, you will be on your way to becoming successful.
Taking action right now can be easy as making a new shopping list out, cutting all the rubbish out, cutting all or most of the alcohol out, cutting the ready meal out etc. What about signing up for a new educational course that will help get you promotion at work, or get another job for instance, now that’s a pretty powerful course of action even in these dark recessionary times, but one thing’s for sure, it won’t be a recession for ever and if you improve yourself, you’re going to come out stronger.
How about signing yourself up and commiting yourself to more workouts a week, demand more out of yourself and really commit yourself to as higher standard of health which automatically leads to a higher quality of life. What about making those calls you have been putting off, to improve realtionships or getting that business off the ground you always thought you had the talent for?
Do the “rocking chair” test. Imagine you are 80 years old on a rocking chair, and imagine you’re regretting not doing something that would have changed your life for the better? When you’re 80, chances are that you would have really given EVERYTHING a go at least once, or if you fail the first time, try a different approach that may have a better chance of working, keep trying and show you can do it!
When a child starts to crawl, and then walk, you wouldn’t tell him/her to give up if the child kept falling over. You would give them time because most kids eventually walk. If you take action, and actually follow through and go after what you want, and don’t give up until you get there, you can be sure you’re going to be majorly more successful than if you never tried in the first place.
It’s great having all this chat, but unless you take action, you won’t get anywhere. Homework today is to do TWO things by close of play tonight that can/will change your life, however small or big!
Let me know how you get on or are you going to let another opportunity pass?!!