This is for all of you who have been told that you will never amount to anything! Society conditions us to be cautious, and not to step our of our comfort zone, here’s a few examples.
All of us have been a child, and some of us have been a parent, so you can relate to this hopefully. When you’re a child, you constantly get cuddled and fussed over, but also you get told not to do things too. If you get too close to the fire, you get stopped and told not to do it again, you get told not to spill your food and eat like a pig, you get told to make a better effort at not filling your nappy when you’re potty training etc etc. Rules start to come into your life!
When you get to school, you start learning that what you got away with in the house doesn’t cut any ice at school, and you learn more discipline, and you are taught by the teacher and your friends, what you can’t do and what you can do. Things have suddenly become a lot more limited in behaviour, and your choices on how to do things.
Then you are judged by your efforts in school and usually categorised as an A, B or C student for example. Certain things are expected of you in life and a certain range of career is expected of you. When you eventually fit into one of these careers, and then perhaps it’s not what you thought it was, the option to change it is usually met with those famous words “you can’t do that”! or “don’t you want to think about that?” or “something else may not suit you or you will find it hard to get a job”! “or even just be happy with your lot in life”!
When you are growing up, you usually have a circle of friends and there is pressure to conform. When you want to do something different that doesn’t really involve the rest of the group, who here has met with astonished looks , and not exactly lots of approving words?!! “You can’t do that” will often be thrown at you in a non-improving way.
What if you have put lots of weight on, your fitness is a distant memory from school, isn’t it true that your new circle of friends are usually not really interested in being very healthy, being fit and feeling fantastic about themselves. There may be one of your friends into a healthy culture but that may be about it. When you suddenly announce that you’re fed up with your weight, your fitness, feeling rubbish, no energy, no drive, fed up with your job etc, aren’t you suddenly met with an initial “don’t be stupid, you look “fine””! When you expand on your plans, doesn’t the “you can do that” undertones start again, or ”you’re too old” or “you’d better be careful” comments start all over again.
You can see then the “can’t do” attitude rules our lives, isn’t it easier to simply “fit in” and not be “controversial”, sounds ridiculous but true and if you like being part of the herd, like a sheep, then perhaps this may be the wrong message for you.
If you are interested in changing anything or even everything, and were told that all it took was opening your mind, and writing down a list of things you really wanted, and taking action to go and get those things, would you believe me?
What about Cyril who regularly posts on here, he’s down to 18 stone now, but I see him at the most at 15 stone, his mindset will allow him to get there or not, it’s his choice and I’m going to help him get there, but he ultimately chooses to get there, and put the work in of course. He is 200% capable!
At a heavier weight, your mindset is different because you do not quite believe that an amazing physical condition can be yours. This is not the “right” of other people, it is your “right” if you put the work in, really leave no other outcome possible in your mind, and take constant action every day to get there. I’ve gone on about most people never taking any action and complaining about life. Isn’t it time by now that you took action to get REALLY where you want to be, isn’t there more to life and did you really imagine when you were that 10 year old boy or girl, that life would really be just “this”? If life is amazing for you, then that’s fantastic and you can probably relate to all of this today.
Life is all about being grateful with your lot, but doesn’t mean you can’t go out there and really get what you want does it? Don’t let anyone tell you that “you can’t do it”!
Life is much better when your are healthier, you workout because you feel better, you eat good food because you feel better, you help others because you feel better, people complement you because sometimes you happen to do good things in life.
Don’t believe you CAN’T DO this or that, you know the truth and taking action every day is key, in short DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT and it will become infectious and you will suddenly become this goal-orientated individual who knows everything is possible, as long you put the work in!
I want to know your stories and let’s start proving you can do it, and prove a few people wrong along the way maybe, which is always fun!! Keep using the resources on this blog and ask me anything that will help you.