“The only thing in the world you can change is yourself and that makes all the difference in the world”-Cher
There comes a point when someone i train is not reaching his/her potential, that an old saying has to be said.
You can talk crap to your friends, and i can talk crap to mine, but let’s not talk crap to each other!
How many people do you know look calm and happy on the outside, but underneath they may be unhappy in some way or many ways, but are putting on a good act, i’ve met more than a few.
If you started your life all again, and had total control of how it would turn out, from the start until now, how would it look?
For example, some of the questions i have seen asked;
What if you hadn’t fell into trap of others putting unrealistic expectations on you, as well as responsiblities you felt were too much? What if you weren’t just expected to do the mundane and just plod along?
What if you weren’t born into a certain family and level in life and you felt you had no choices?
What if you didn’t live from pay slip to pay slip, worrying that things may not turn out ok, and didn’t have everyone depending on you?
What if you weren’t heavily overweight and quite so tired all the time, would life be different? What if the feelings of being trapped went away, and for the first time in your life you had the opportunity to shape your life for who you really are and what really matters to you finally?
What if you started questionning what it really matters if you drive an old or new car, how much you earn, what street you live in, and do you really care if someone dislikes you or not?
So if you had this second chance, would you really go for it, or is the old life nice and safe so you stick to what you have. Is it worth a new adventure of being fit and healthy, or are you going to bail out again last moment, and not follow through?
Are you going to settle for that because you are scared that the new, fit and exciting version of you can’t really happen? If you commit in the new year to that new you and you managed to stick to the programme (and yes, you can get help at any time), a few things will likely happen to you.
You will discover you have a lot more choice on what happens in your life and you do have much more control than you thought. You will find out that your past does not control you, not now and definitely not in the future. For you to start though, you have to refuse to accept the negatives going on in your life, and refuse to keep on making the same old excuses.
If you do not have what you really want and need, you must be willing to say so and with conviction. Then, you can really start to change it and make those changes last for life. If you always tell yourself the truth, you will become even more proud of the progress you’re about to achieve, as you know it will be real and nobody will be able to tell you otherwise.