Day 45 Telling it like it is

One of the best traits i like in people is the ability to speak your mind, telling it like it is and really seeing great importance on getting your message across. With the amount of people i train, i always get to hear problems throughout the day as well as success stories.

The ability of the person i train to tell me what is really going on is paramount to the effect i can have on their development. For example, we have jean writing in last week, how good she felt when she tried a jacket on last week that hadn’t fit her only weeks earlier. I remember her saying she was having massive asthma problems, and the need of an asthma pump in her life and the fact that she hated it with a passion.

Then we had Jean writing in how well her training was going, hitting hills for the first time in a very long time, and her breathing had actually improved tenfold!! There were non-stop positives coming through thick and fast. Then the screeching halt, the scales were telling here that she hadn’t improved after all, all the better breathing ability hadn’t really mattered, the jacket fitting for the first time didn’t matter, the fact that she was putting very good food in here body every day, and somehow this didn’t matter?!!!!!!!!

What rubbish, jean is going great guns and i’m prepared to congratulate her for her perseverence. All i have done now is point the facts out to here, and one little small thing (the scales), is playing games with her mind. Don’t fall for it jean, throw those scales in the skip if you have to, because they are clouding your otherwise very good judgement!!

Who else on here is not having a “perfect” time? I have a less than perfect time all the time! I have the same worries and insecurities that most of you have, but i work on the following principles/guidelines to where i should be.

If my lowest waist jeans still fit well, then i am in shape and i am happy. If my fitness is still good, and i’m improving year on year, i am happy. If i am still giving my best most of the time, then i am happy. If i feel good most of the time and have a lot of energy , i am happy. These are pretty good principles and guidelines to live by.

So what are your guidelines and standards? I would suggest the following.

Grab your best jeans, do they fit anymore? Great if they do, if they don’t, its easier than you think to get there, it just may take some time and you need to get with the programme!

Do people still give you compliments on your appearance? If they don’t, you can turn that around and make it happen.

Are you still in the range of your previous personal bests in terms of physical performance? If you are great, if not, you have the tools to make it happen!

Are your energy levels still good? If they are not, start eating properly again and exercise regularly, you can change that around STRAIGHT away!

Are you happy? If you’re not, chuck out the negative influences in your life and celebrate what you have going for you, help others and do the things that give you satisfaction and personal pride.

Believe in yourself-When everything seems to be going wrong around you, this is the only thing you have to bring you out of all holes you don’t want to be in. Believing in yourself and your abilities is crucial to achieving long term success and firm foundations in your health and fitness programme, and i life in general.

Be honest with yourself-if you’re eating rubbish most of the time, and you’re missing more workouts than you’re actually doing, you’re kidding yourself and you’re not living life at the level you could. If you’re carrying extra pounds or stones, the best thing you can do is admit it, then formulate a plan on how you’re going to achieve your physical goals. Self-honesty is paramount to being in the shape you want to be, and on this programme it’s good to tell it like it is, as none of us are perfect and we all feel like we can’t climb life’s mountains at times. The first step is always the hardest.

Sharing your problems is always a good strategy as there is always a way out, there has always someone who has been there or even a worse situation, and can maybe advise on the best way out. See problems as challenges, and without challenges, we would be able to grow as human beings.

Tell it like it is, don’t gloss over it and you are likely to get a direct answer back, which means the issue gets solved straight away, and the problem/challenge no longer exists.

Hope everyone’s having a great week!

Keri

17 Replies to “Day 45 Telling it like it is”

  1. Thank you for this article, Keri. A much needed kick up the bum reminder that I badly needed!!

  2. was to bloody tired to post yesterday in bed by 10!!!!! thats very early for me too….bike ride yesterday 1hr 15mins still bloody cold wind buzzing around here,still got snow on the highest parts of the mountain i look at when on my ride 🙂
    breakfast Baby Porage with bananas and strawberries pint of Water

    snack 3 spoons of nat yog with a few nuts and raisins glass of water

    lunch was a turkey and 1/2bag (wholemeal one) from tesco’s love them

    snack pear

    dinner Roast Turkey Breast with spuds,peas,carrots,broc and parsnips WHICH THE CHILDREN WITH ME BLOODY HATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! oh the joys of parent hood 🙂
    thing is Ker my wife’y and the children cant wait for Friday or Sat cos thats one of the only days we can have some junk 🙂 Connor&Mia are telling me all the time please no more greens!!!!!!!! 🙂 even heard the poor dad say up the school what did you have for dinner last night CHIPS,SAUSAGE OR DIPPERS WITH BEANS……i felt like i was bulling her lol,lol,lol,lol.

  3. You know by now cyril that the junk makes you feel bad, give you heartburn etc, so you need to overcome this bump on the road at all costs. Got a post on family eating in the diet section too. Your body is fighting change, but the reality of it is that your stomach is waving its goodbyes to you now, but is not going without a fight.

    NOW is the time when complete belief is needed, and the journey you are already taking to get you to unbelievable standards in your health! I know you’re a fighter cyril and you’re leading by example in your family and beyong so keep doing your best!

  4. ‘Tell it how it is, don’t gloss over it’ I like it. Class. Cyril I’ve noticed you in quite a few posts pal you seem to know exactly what you want and fair play you’re giving it a good go. I mainly ready your comments instead of Keri’s posts! haha

  5. cyril can achieve great things, he may even surprise himself! All he needs is to keep on going!

  6. Bloody hell dont know what happen yesterday and the day before aching tired and to be honest was ready to say bugger it had a right “boob” full…..havent a clue what brought it on, but feel hell of a lot better today????apart from this bloody freezing mornings!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! c’mon big guy when’s the heat coming 🙂 🙂 🙂 cheers Tom.Thing is Keri knows his onions has all the posters here keep saying to us.Without his words of wisdom think i would have giving in a good while back lik ei normally do 🙂

  7. the reason you felt like throwing it in is because you were over tired cyril, all triggered off by that ultra-long bike ride which hammered you just a few days ago, then you still miss snacks and may have been malnourished a bit and did you under sleep this week?

    Anyway, you are over that now and bloody agree, its freezing out there but once you’re out in it for a bit, its not so bad. Dont stay out there so long and hammer it when you do.

    38 waist is your cyril!

  8. you think those few extras on the bike would have done that then Ker?my main aim was to get back into 40 waist stuff comfortably and i would have been happy,still a ways to go yet but hopefully by the summer now 😉

  9. definitely cyril, the extra work may have over loaded you temporarily, and working too much can dampen enthusiam. However, you seem in a better place already and you will learn from the experience definitely. I think you can get to 38 ultimately.

  10. Cyril It’s always good to see other peoples opinions I agree. I didn’t actually realise how important this blog was to people but I’m starting to get it now.
    I think It’s really important because even though Keri’s job doesn’t directly involve saving lives like maybe a fireman or Paramedic would, his job is equally as important and is definitely on the same path. Some pictures uploaded on here would be a cool idea…in my opinion.

  11. good point about the photos tom, it will be done soon! As i have so much going on in the day, then two children in the evening, time is short but this site will be upgraded a lot in the coming months.

    Appreciate your support.

  12. Seeing peoples progress or even simple photos of people doing some of their exercises will definitely give people a lift.

  13. TRUST ME, KERI IS A LIFESAVER, HE MAY NOT BE A FIREMAN OR A PARAMEDIC, BUT HE HAS SAVED MY LIFE MANY TIMES, AND HE IS DOIN IT AGAIN. In my opinion his job is on a par with these people, he is very dedicated to his clients and to this site, and most of all HE CARES about us all and he makes the time to keep this BLOG goin even with a small demanding family. He makes you believe that you CAN and in the end GUESS WHAT, you CAN. I am finding since I started this CHALLENGE I CAN do it, I DONT need my PUMPS, and the training that I used to do with Keri 10 years ago, is all coming back to me and even tho I am 10 years older, very OBESE and an ASTHMATIC, I AM DOIN IT. And I can tell you no one is more surprised or thrilled than me, except maybe KERI. So please Keri, carry on saving my life. Thank you. Jean x

  14. thanks for the kind words but im more of a rudder guiding your ship along stormy waters at times. YOU have done it and not me, i just help in a very small way.

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